Children Are Not Born Selfish…they Become

Selfish children are the result of bad parenting.

It is necessary to be aware of this.

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We’ve all been selfish at one time because a perfect human being doesn’t exist.

When we don’t want to lend our belongings, we get angry when someone else benefits from something that could be ours alone, when we deny something simple that helps improve someone else’s life…we behave selfishly.

Some research shows that the behavior of always thinking of yourself before others and taking advantage of the weaknesses of those around us… that is, being selfish, is a genetic consequence.

The discovery of the selfish gene is a new contribution to the modern theory of evolution and shows us why this feeling is present in human beings.

However, it is not because we were born designed to be selfish that we should take this fact as a pretext to act in this way.

Helping others is one of the premises we should have in life. Altruism makes us better people.

Let’s go back to the beginning:  we humans are selfish by nature. But we are also friendly and supportive.

We are made up of a mixture of feelings and values ​​that surface on certain occasions.

That’s why we say it’s up to parents to find a balance in their children’s behavior.

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If you have more than one child, you should be used to mediating their discussions.

A toy, a candy, a place in front of the television, your affection and even the yellowish leaf that fell from the tree awaken discussions in the little ones.

When two children want the same thing at the same time, they no doubt argue.

But having several children can also serve to show little ones the value and importance of sharing.

When children have siblings, they grow up sharing belongings and sharing their parents’ love. Even a piece of bread turns into small pieces for each one.

Something similar happens at the kindergarten.

A child who interacts daily with other children of the same age, who plays and shares toys and the space in a given place, develops the idea of ​​the need to share.

So, we emphasize that a child’s behavior does not solely depend on the parent’s education.

Next, we will present one of the causes that lead a child to be selfish.

overprotection

Overprotection in the early stages of life produces many emotional and behavioral disorders.

But suddenly failing to overprotect a child, say because of the death of the overprotective parent, or the birth of a baby in need of special care, can awaken that child’s sense of abandonment.

The little ones develop a feeling of loss that often ends up awakening selfishness.

When they get the inordinate attention of another family member again, they don’t share it with anyone else for any reason.

Another facet of overprotection appears when the child in question is born with a physical disorder.

A deaf child, for example, who grows up exclusively among adults and other children with full hearing faculties tends to be overprotected.

Other family members, including other children, can give that child special treatment. Therefore, over time, the child in question will feel comfortable only receiving this type of treatment.

There will come a time when this disabled child will feel more privileged inside and outside the home. Thus, she will believe that she should always receive special treatment above others.

This, no doubt, will awaken selfishness in her.

Children are not born selfish…they become

In order to contribute to the creation of your little one and, above all, to prevent him from becoming a selfish child, we have some advice to give.

The first thing to do is to demonstrate to your child the importance of friendship and how to be a good friend.

So change your attitude and say “no” to overprotection.

If your child has any physical disorder or difficulty, it’s no use raising him under your wing.

Sooner or later he will need to relate to society and be self-sufficient, accepting his own mistakes and learning from them.

Whether you like it or not, your child will make decisions, which may or may not be the right ones. He will love, suffer and experience all that life has to give or take from him.

Don’t raise a selfish child. From an early age, teach your child to share, love others, empathize, and be selfless.

Teach him to learn to give without expecting to receive something in return.  Teach your child to give and share the joys with those with whom he shares his life.