Daddy, You’re Pregnant Too my
It is your responsibility to create that loving bond with your child and be there to support your partner through the process of pregnancy and childbirth. And although at first you are filled with doubts, anxiety and a lot of fear, from day one don’t hesitate to enjoy every second of that moment, especially if you are a first-time dad.
The mother may be the center of attention, but the pregnancy would be complicated without you. You are your partner’s support and strength . Your duty is to be understanding, caring and companionable. You will learn to be a daddy with every hit and miss.
Sometimes it’s not easy for the father to get involved in the pregnancy, especially in the first few months. However, from the beginning the mother can facilitate this bond. How to do this?
How to involve the father in pregnancy
Communication
Talk to your partner and express the expectations, fears, and projections you have before the baby arrives. Make him feel like another protagonist of the story. Exchange opinions and fears that the new role may bring. Don’t downplay or miss details of events and transformations that he will also want to experience during pregnancy. During pregnancy, more than at any other time, make him feel like your best friend and accomplice.
Pampering and conversations with the baby
In the beginning, it may be that the father is a little shy or hesitant to talk or even caress the baby in his belly. Especially if he’s not expressive. In this case, moments of intimacy and mutual company are ideal for talking, showing affection and, finally, starting the relationship with your child in the womb. In addition, doctors recommend stimulating the baby in the womb in order to establish emotional bonds and contribute to the good development of the fetus.
During pregnancy the mother will be very sensitive due to the physical transformation she is facing. One way to reduce tension and encourage family bonds is to cuddle and caress the mother and stimulate the baby. Show your love for your family without being ashamed.
No pressure
The mother is not the only one pregnant, the father is too. It also undergoes a transformation process that, even though it is different, is no less significant . Each member of the couple experiences different but equally important emotions. So don’t underestimate your partner’s reactions and, without pressure, show the way to parenthood.
A proactive attitude of the mother, instead of just reacting or complaining about situations, will lead to better results . Mom, don’t press, because each person has their time.
Medical appointments and participation in childbirth
Doctor visits are your baby’s pre-birthdays. Each appointment creates anxiety and excitement as the baby grows. It is assistance every month to check the important aspects in the development of pregnancy. Each consultation is unique and always brings surprise and a lot of learning . Go to medical appointments with your partner, especially those where ultrasounds or special tests will be performed.
The father’s involvement in childbirth is also a relevant discussion. Knowing his interest in witnessing the birth, what kinds of curiosity he has, and determining whether he will be there or not will help him get involved.
Celebrating a baby shower and choosing a name
Celebrating a baby shower, as well as decorating the room and buying the first toys, are good times to make dad feel like the king of the moment. If he wants, include him in organizing events with activities he likes.
Deciding the baby’s name is also a matter for the couple, even if any agreement is valid. Sometimes the father lets the mother choose the name. At other times it is the mother who gives the father the task of selecting his child’s name.
Pregnancy is a time to be enjoyed with all its ups and downs. Be present throughout the process offering support, companionship and good attitude. Being a parent is a unique and wonderful event.